The How to Cheat Podcast

EP 3024 - Why Ashley Madison Suspends Women's Accounts

In this episode, Teresa Conway explores why women’s accounts on Ashley Madison often get suspended, especially when personal information is shared too soon. If you’ve ever had someone disappear mid-chat, Teresa breaks down the reasons and shares tips on how to avoid getting flagged as suspicious.
Episode Highlights:
Why women’s accounts get suspended: Sharing personal info (like email, Kik, or Telegram) within the first 24 hours can trigger an automatic block.
Scammers on Ashley Madison: Scammers use free women’s accounts to lure men off the platform for extortion. Early personal info sharing looks like a scam tactic.
Personal experience: Teresa shares how a woman disappeared while chatting with her client, likely because she shared info too quickly.
Best practices: Stay on the platform longer to avoid being flagged and ensure the person you’re chatting with isn’t a scammer.
Key Takeaways:
Avoid sharing personal info too soon, especially from a new account.
Stay on the platform until you meet the person in real life.
Be cautious of suspensions and know that accounts can be reactivated after review.
Quotable:"Moving off the site can get you suspended as a lady. But it’s also good practice to stay on the site just in case the guy’s a dud."
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EP 2924 - Fan Validate My Cheating Advice

In this episode, host Teresa Conway shares a powerful email from a reader that reaffirmed why she wrote her book, How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress. The email highlights the reader’s appreciation for how Teresa breaks down complex topics like adultery and lying into learnable skills. Teresa reflects on how this feedback mirrors her own journey from making early mistakes to seriously researching cheating and ultimately becoming the resource she needed when she first started out.
Episode Highlights:
A heartfelt fan email about How to Cheat and the reader’s first impressions:
"Thank you for the free copy of your book! I'm currently reading it, and it's absolutely fascinating."
"You present complicated topics like adultery and lying, making them seem like learnable skills."
Teresa reflects on the importance of offering practical guidance for those navigating adultery.
How her personal security breach led to the serious research behind the book.
The reader's journey mirrors Teresa’s own initial curiosity about Ashley Madison and their desire to understand it before diving in.
"I was researching Ashley Madison and came across your articles. You stood out as a leading expert on the subject."
Teresa's mission: becoming the resource she wished she had when she began her affair.
Key Takeaways:
Even in risky situations like infidelity, research and preparation can prevent major mistakes.
How to Cheat provides the practical tools and knowledge for making informed decisions rather than acting impulsively.
Get a free pdf copy of my ebook — How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress — by joining ⇨ MY EMAIL LIST!
Quotable Moment:"I decided to become the resource I needed when I started."
Call to Action:
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EP 2428 - The Male Experience: Navigating Ashley Madison

Episode Summary:In this episode, Teresa dives into the challenges men face during their first 30 days on Ashley Madison. While many assume cheating is driven by physical needs, Teresa shares insights from her experience with male clients, showing how emotional needs—like a desire for affection and validation—often play a significant role. The episode explores the harsh realities men encounter on this female-dominated platform, where competition is fierce, and women hold the power.
Episode Highlights:
Why Men Cheat:Men often cheat not just for sex but to fulfill unmet emotional needs like affection and connection, feeling neglected in their relationships.
Ashley Madison’s Brutal Reality for Men:
The platform is highly competitive with a five-to-one ratio of men to women.
Women hold all the power, and rejection can be soul-crushing for men.
Men struggle with the shift in dynamics, as they are often judged based on their appearance and approach.
Improving Your Odds on Ashley Madison:
Profile Optimization: Write a well-crafted profile and use strong photos to stand out.
Messaging Strategy: Avoid generic lines; personalize messages to show genuine interest.
Understanding the Competition: Creating a female profile can give men insight into the chaos women face on the site.
Key Takeaways:
Success on Ashley Madison requires strategy and understanding the power dynamics.
Men need to focus on improving their profile, messaging, and being patient.
Quotable Moment:“If you're a man on Ashley Madison, success comes down to strategy. Make your profile stand out, be genuine, and remember, it’s the women who call the shots.”
Call to Action:Ready to learn how to master the game on Ashley Madison? Tune in now for Teresa’s expert tips on making your profile stand out and winning the attention of women on the platform.

EP 2427 - 3 Things Smart Men Do to Stand Out on Ashley Madison

In this episode, host Teresa Conway shares three essential tips that smart men use to differentiate themselves on Ashley Madison. With the competition so fierce, it's vital to avoid common mistakes and instead stand out by being thoughtful, respectful, and patient. Whether you're on Ashley Madison or any other dating platform, these strategies will help you succeed.
Episode Highlights:
Why winking and favoriting are ineffective.
The importance of not asking for or sending pictures too soon.
How message-bombing comes across as desperate and how to avoid it.
Key Takeaways:
Don’t Wink or Favorite: Send a personalized message instead.
Don’t Ask for Pics: Let her offer and build a connection first.
Don’t Message-Bomb: Send a follow-up, then give her space to respond.
Quotable: "Standing out on Ashley Madison isn’t about doing more. It’s about being thoughtful, respectful, and patient."
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EP 2426 - Lt Gov Mark Robinson of North Carolina Gives Cheaters a Bad Name

In this episode, Teresa dives into the scandal surrounding North Carolina’s Lieutenant Governor and gubernatorial candidate, Mark Robinson. From his Ashley Madison cheating scandal to his shocking comments on slavery, Black Nazis, and trans porn, Robinson is the latest in a long line of family values politicians giving all cheaters a bad name.
Episode Highlights:
Mark Robinson's Ashley Madison account and the hypocrisy behind his family values platform.
His outrageous remarks on slavery and being a slave owner.
The bizarre claim that there were Black Nazis.
Robinson’s double life, enjoying trans porn while actively opposing trans rights.
Why people who denounce others often have their own skeletons in the closet.
Key Takeaways:
If you’re living a double life, tone down the public rhetoric—it'll save you from the fallout when the truth comes out.
A lesson for all cheaters: don’t be self-righteous if you're secretly breaking the rules.
Quotable: “Mark’s problem is, he’s just basically a big mouth... When you have a public life that says one thing and a private life that shows a different thing, you’re bound to crash and burn.”
Call to Action: Listen now to hear Teresa break down the Mark Robinson saga and offer cautionary advice for anyone trying to balance their public and private lives. Subscribe for more thought-provoking episodes!

EP 2425 - Understanding Scammers and Bots on Ashley Madison

In this episode of the Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway dives into a common frustration for Ashley Madison users—dealing with scammers and confusing auto-generated messages. She breaks down how to recognize scam patterns, avoid falling for fake profiles, and explains the purpose behind Ashley Madison’s system-generated messages.
Episode Highlights:
Scammer Tactics:
Sending flirty messages or photos without viewing your profile.
Moving conversations off-site (to WhatsApp, etc.) to ask for money.
Geographic inconsistencies and last-minute money requests (e.g., for cabs or transportation).
Ashley Madison’s Auto-Messages:
System-generated messages that simulate interest and encourage users to spend credits.
Winks or favorites triggering automatic replies, which can be mistaken for real interactions.
Key Tips:
Avoid moving conversations off the platform too soon.
Don’t give out personal information or money to someone you haven’t met.
Read messages carefully to detect auto-generated content.
Quotable:
“If it feels too good to be true, it probably is.”
 
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EP 2424 - Men's Stupid Profile Names

In this episode, Teresa Conway dives into the impact of men’s online dating profile names and how they can make or break first impressions with women. Teresa discusses why overly sexual names like "Mr69" and "PussyLicker222" are a huge turn-off, why maturity matters, and how men can improve their chances of attracting women by making better choices with their usernames.
Episode Highlights:
Sexualized profile names send the wrong message: They signal immaturity and lack of respect.
Real examples of bad names and why they fail:
"PussyLicker222222" – Overcompensating for other issues.
"WellHung8969" – Leads to neck pain, not romance.
"BlueEyedGuy69" – Could have been great without the 69.
First impressions matter: Your profile name can either attract or instantly turn women away.
Advice on creating better profile names: Be clever or neutral—avoid high school humor.
Key Takeaways:
Avoid sexualized usernames; they show disrespect and immaturity.
First impressions are everything; a thoughtful or neutral name gives you the upper hand.
Quotable:
"Your profile name is your first impression. A bad one will guarantee no one opens your profile."
Ready to up your online dating game? Check out more of Teresa’s writing on her Substack: How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress. Stay tuned for a follow-up blog post on this topic!

EP 2423 - Why Dating Profiles Go Wrong

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway shares expert advice on crafting an authentic and compelling online dating profile. She dives into common pitfalls, including vague descriptions, overconfidence, and humor that misses the mark, explaining how these mistakes can lead to misunderstandings or poor matches. Teresa emphasizes the importance of treating your profile like a resume—showcasing who you are and what you're looking for.
Episode Highlights:
Why poor profiles lead to missed connections
Balancing humor and personality in your profile
Key elements to include: hobbies, values, lifestyle details
Tips for using feedback to improve your profile
A success story from a revamped profile
Key Takeaway: A well-written, thoughtful profile sets the stage for dating success—think of it as your personal introduction.
Quotable: "You're not trying to date yourself—write for your audience!"
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EP 2422 - 25 Ground Rules Before Getting in Bed With an Affair Partner

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway shares 25 crucial ground rules for managing an affair while keeping your primary relationship intact. From setting boundaries to discussing consent and protection, Teresa covers key strategies to minimize complications. She stresses the importance of communication and being prepared for emotional, physical, and practical challenges.
Episode Highlights:
Establishing "no-go" areas to avoid being seen
Consent and boundaries for intimacy
Handling medical emergencies and existing conditions
Keeping drug and alcohol use in check
Planning an exit strategy
Key Takeaway: Setting boundaries and clear expectations upfront can help prevent unnecessary drama and complications.
Quotable: "Set your boundaries early and be clear about your expectations to avoid unnecessary drama."
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EP 2421 - Celebrating My Six Year Affair Anniversary!

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway reflects on her 6-year affair anniversary. Teresa shares the story of how she and her lover first connected, the emotional journey they’ve been on, and how their relationship has evolved beyond the physical into a deep emotional partnership. She also dives into stories from others who’ve had long-term affairs—some that thrived and others that faded—and explores why some relationships fail while others flourish.
Episode Highlights:
Celebrating Teresa's 6-year affair anniversary
Reflecting on their first connection: a coffee/makeout session followed by their first hotel date on September 13, 2018
Stories from other long-term affairs: reasons they fall apart, including guilt, health issues, and lack of communication
Why Teresa believes her affair works:
Friendship and love beyond sex
Daily communication and virtual meetings
Working together in business
Shared interests, like watching the same TV show
Key Takeaways:
Long-term affairs require effort, just like marriages
Communication, emotional support, and shared interests are essential for maintaining a successful relationship
Building a connection beyond physical attraction can strengthen the relationship over time
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