The How to Cheat Podcast

EP 2425 - Understanding Scammers and Bots on Ashley Madison

In this episode of the Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway dives into a common frustration for Ashley Madison users—dealing with scammers and confusing auto-generated messages. She breaks down how to recognize scam patterns, avoid falling for fake profiles, and explains the purpose behind Ashley Madison’s system-generated messages.
Episode Highlights:
Scammer Tactics:
Sending flirty messages or photos without viewing your profile.
Moving conversations off-site (to WhatsApp, etc.) to ask for money.
Geographic inconsistencies and last-minute money requests (e.g., for cabs or transportation).
Ashley Madison’s Auto-Messages:
System-generated messages that simulate interest and encourage users to spend credits.
Winks or favorites triggering automatic replies, which can be mistaken for real interactions.
Key Tips:
Avoid moving conversations off the platform too soon.
Don’t give out personal information or money to someone you haven’t met.
Read messages carefully to detect auto-generated content.
Quotable:
“If it feels too good to be true, it probably is.”
 
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EP 2424 - Men's Stupid Profile Names

In this episode, Teresa Conway dives into the impact of men’s online dating profile names and how they can make or break first impressions with women. Teresa discusses why overly sexual names like "Mr69" and "PussyLicker222" are a huge turn-off, why maturity matters, and how men can improve their chances of attracting women by making better choices with their usernames.
Episode Highlights:
Sexualized profile names send the wrong message: They signal immaturity and lack of respect.
Real examples of bad names and why they fail:
"PussyLicker222222" – Overcompensating for other issues.
"WellHung8969" – Leads to neck pain, not romance.
"BlueEyedGuy69" – Could have been great without the 69.
First impressions matter: Your profile name can either attract or instantly turn women away.
Advice on creating better profile names: Be clever or neutral—avoid high school humor.
Key Takeaways:
Avoid sexualized usernames; they show disrespect and immaturity.
First impressions are everything; a thoughtful or neutral name gives you the upper hand.
Quotable:
"Your profile name is your first impression. A bad one will guarantee no one opens your profile."
Ready to up your online dating game? Check out more of Teresa’s writing on her Substack: How to Cheat: Field Notes from an Adulteress. Stay tuned for a follow-up blog post on this topic!

EP 2423 - Why Dating Profiles Go Wrong

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway shares expert advice on crafting an authentic and compelling online dating profile. She dives into common pitfalls, including vague descriptions, overconfidence, and humor that misses the mark, explaining how these mistakes can lead to misunderstandings or poor matches. Teresa emphasizes the importance of treating your profile like a resume—showcasing who you are and what you're looking for.
Episode Highlights:
Why poor profiles lead to missed connections
Balancing humor and personality in your profile
Key elements to include: hobbies, values, lifestyle details
Tips for using feedback to improve your profile
A success story from a revamped profile
Key Takeaway: A well-written, thoughtful profile sets the stage for dating success—think of it as your personal introduction.
Quotable: "You're not trying to date yourself—write for your audience!"
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EP 2422 - 25 Ground Rules Before Getting in Bed With an Affair Partner

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway shares 25 crucial ground rules for managing an affair while keeping your primary relationship intact. From setting boundaries to discussing consent and protection, Teresa covers key strategies to minimize complications. She stresses the importance of communication and being prepared for emotional, physical, and practical challenges.
Episode Highlights:
Establishing "no-go" areas to avoid being seen
Consent and boundaries for intimacy
Handling medical emergencies and existing conditions
Keeping drug and alcohol use in check
Planning an exit strategy
Key Takeaway: Setting boundaries and clear expectations upfront can help prevent unnecessary drama and complications.
Quotable: "Set your boundaries early and be clear about your expectations to avoid unnecessary drama."
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EP 2421 - Celebrating My Six Year Affair Anniversary!

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway reflects on her 6-year affair anniversary. Teresa shares the story of how she and her lover first connected, the emotional journey they’ve been on, and how their relationship has evolved beyond the physical into a deep emotional partnership. She also dives into stories from others who’ve had long-term affairs—some that thrived and others that faded—and explores why some relationships fail while others flourish.
Episode Highlights:
Celebrating Teresa's 6-year affair anniversary
Reflecting on their first connection: a coffee/makeout session followed by their first hotel date on September 13, 2018
Stories from other long-term affairs: reasons they fall apart, including guilt, health issues, and lack of communication
Why Teresa believes her affair works:
Friendship and love beyond sex
Daily communication and virtual meetings
Working together in business
Shared interests, like watching the same TV show
Key Takeaways:
Long-term affairs require effort, just like marriages
Communication, emotional support, and shared interests are essential for maintaining a successful relationship
Building a connection beyond physical attraction can strengthen the relationship over time
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EP 2420 - Why High Profile Men Need an Infidelity Consultant

In this episode, Teresa dives into the infamous Adam Levine scandal, exploring how even minor indiscretions—like flirty texts—can explode into public disasters. Teresa breaks down why successful men often overestimate their ability to manage these situations and how micro-cheating is just as damaging in today’s media landscape.
Episode Highlights:
Adam Levine’s scandal with Sumner Stroh: flirty texts and the fallout
Why Sumner had nothing to lose, but Adam Levine had everything at stake
Cheating on a Victoria's Secret model: What people don’t see behind closed doors
What is micro-cheating? Examples include:
Flirty texts and sexting
Liking posts from romantic interests
Keeping a dating profile open
Hiding your relationship status while flirting
How today's media environment magnifies even the smallest indiscretions
Key Takeaway:What are your reputation and bank balance worth to you? Don’t let a few bad decisions wreck both.
Quotable:“From the outside, people say, ‘Who cheats on a Victoria’s Secret model?’ But behind closed doors, it’s just like any other marriage. The shine wears off, and the same problems show up.”
Want to safeguard your reputation and avoid these high-profile fails? Contact me for personalized infidelity consulting. I’ll guide you through these situations before they become front-page news.
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EP 2419 - Writing the Perfect Dating App Greeting

Description: In this episode, Teresa Conway breaks down the key components of a successful opening message on married dating apps. Learn how to craft a personalized greeting, reference something specific from her profile, and invite her to connect in a way that feels genuine. Teresa also shares real examples of effective messages you can use to start conversations with confidence.
Episode Highlights:
Why personalized greetings matter
Key elements of a strong first message:
Friendly greeting using her name or handle
Reference something from her profile
Light, open invitation to connect
Real-life examples of successful opening messages
Quotable Moment: “Think of your message like a cover letter—get her interested enough to read your profile and reply.”
 
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EP 2418 - Should You Find an Affair Partner in Real Life?

In this episode, Teresa dives into the question of whether it's a good idea to seek out an affair partner in the real world, based on a client’s dilemma. He’s noticed a woman who smiles at him on his commute, and wonders if he should approach her. Teresa breaks down the risks of pursuing someone in real life versus finding a safer match through an affair app.
Episode Highlights:
Client’s story: Is the woman on the train just friendly or potentially interested?
The risks of "traditional" affair partners, like neighbors or co-workers.
Why meeting someone in real life makes it harder to read intentions and increases chances of getting caught.
OPSEC (Operational Security) and why using an app is the safer bet.
Key Takeaways:
Apps remove the awkward “Are you interested in an affair?” question.
Real-life connections overlap social circles, increasing exposure and risk.
Avoid traditional affair partners to minimize gossip and suspicion.
Quotable: “Luck is not a strategy. Finding an affair partner on an app reduces risk, while real-life encounters are a gamble.”
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EP 2417 - Funny Ashley Madison Messages that Flop

Why Your Opening Messages on Ashley Madison Fail
Summary: In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway dives into why certain types of opening messages on Ashley Madison don’t get replies. Teresa shares real messages she’s received, from sexualized ones to cliche openers, and explains why they fall flat. She also highlights the importance of following through with creative approaches, using a haiku promise that was never delivered as a prime example of a missed opportunity.
Key Highlights:
Sexualized messages and why they are an immediate fail.
Example: "What are your fantasies? My fantasy is tying you to the bed..."
Teresa’s response: "My fantasy is not being tied to the bed."
Why cliche or shallow messages won’t get replies.
Example: "I got lots of money to take care of you."
Teresa’s response: "Nope."
When creative messages work but fail due to lack of follow-through.
Example: "Something simple…a haiku?"
Teresa’s response: "And there, you had me all excited. No haiku, no sex."
Key Takeaways:
Be thoughtful and avoid sexualizing the first interaction.
Don’t rely on shallow claims like wealth or looks to impress.
Follow through on unique or creative approaches; otherwise, it’s a missed opportunity.
Quotable Moment: "You're writing checks with your mouth that your ass can't cash."
Subscribe to The Teresa Pod for more insights on navigating dating apps, and stay tuned for Teresa’s upcoming blog post for additional examples and tips!

EP 2416 - Skin Hunger: Deprivation of Human Touch

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, Teresa Conway discusses the concept of "skin hunger"—the impact of going without human touch. She shares her experiences with touch deprivation, from her childhood to later life, and explains the lasting effects of a single hug in high school. Teresa also dives into the science behind human touch, focusing on how oxytocin—the "love drug"—plays a vital role in emotional well-being. Touch deprivation can lead to anxiety, depression, and other health issues, making regular physical contact essential.
Episode Highlights:
Definition of skin hunger and how it affects various groups (e.g., elderly, shut-ins, people in prison)
Teresa’s personal story of growing up without much physical affection
The significance of a single hug and how it stayed with her for years
Health impacts of touch deprivation: anxiety, depression, sleep problems, weight gain, and more
How oxytocin is released through physical contact, helping us feel connected and cared for
The importance of everyday touch, like hand-holding and back-scratching
Key Takeaways:
Regular physical contact is essential for emotional and physical health.
A lack of touch over time can lead to a range of mental and physical health problems.
Touch goes beyond sensuality—it fosters connection, reduces stress, and improves well-being.
Quotable Moment: "That hug, though short, transferred a warmth and energy into me that I never knew I was missing."
Call to Action: If you know someone who may be going without regular physical contact, especially elderly or isolated individuals, consider how you can offer that connection. And don’t forget to subscribe to The Teresa Pod for more episodes like this!