The How to Cheat Podcast

EP 2420 - Why High Profile Men Need an Infidelity Consultant

In this episode, Teresa dives into the infamous Adam Levine scandal, exploring how even minor indiscretions—like flirty texts—can explode into public disasters. Teresa breaks down why successful men often overestimate their ability to manage these situations and how micro-cheating is just as damaging in today’s media landscape.
Episode Highlights:
Adam Levine’s scandal with Sumner Stroh: flirty texts and the fallout
Why Sumner had nothing to lose, but Adam Levine had everything at stake
Cheating on a Victoria's Secret model: What people don’t see behind closed doors
What is micro-cheating? Examples include:
Flirty texts and sexting
Liking posts from romantic interests
Keeping a dating profile open
Hiding your relationship status while flirting
How today's media environment magnifies even the smallest indiscretions
Key Takeaway:What are your reputation and bank balance worth to you? Don’t let a few bad decisions wreck both.
Quotable:“From the outside, people say, ‘Who cheats on a Victoria’s Secret model?’ But behind closed doors, it’s just like any other marriage. The shine wears off, and the same problems show up.”
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EP 2419 - Writing the Perfect Dating App Greeting

Description: In this episode, Teresa Conway breaks down the key components of a successful opening message on married dating apps. Learn how to craft a personalized greeting, reference something specific from her profile, and invite her to connect in a way that feels genuine. Teresa also shares real examples of effective messages you can use to start conversations with confidence.
Episode Highlights:
Why personalized greetings matter
Key elements of a strong first message:
Friendly greeting using her name or handle
Reference something from her profile
Light, open invitation to connect
Real-life examples of successful opening messages
Quotable Moment: “Think of your message like a cover letter—get her interested enough to read your profile and reply.”
 
Ready to step up your messaging game? Tune in now!

EP 2418 - Should You Find an Affair Partner in Real Life?

In this episode, Teresa dives into the question of whether it's a good idea to seek out an affair partner in the real world, based on a client’s dilemma. He’s noticed a woman who smiles at him on his commute, and wonders if he should approach her. Teresa breaks down the risks of pursuing someone in real life versus finding a safer match through an affair app.
Episode Highlights:
Client’s story: Is the woman on the train just friendly or potentially interested?
The risks of "traditional" affair partners, like neighbors or co-workers.
Why meeting someone in real life makes it harder to read intentions and increases chances of getting caught.
OPSEC (Operational Security) and why using an app is the safer bet.
Key Takeaways:
Apps remove the awkward “Are you interested in an affair?” question.
Real-life connections overlap social circles, increasing exposure and risk.
Avoid traditional affair partners to minimize gossip and suspicion.
Quotable: “Luck is not a strategy. Finding an affair partner on an app reduces risk, while real-life encounters are a gamble.”
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EP 2417 - Funny Ashley Madison Messages that Flop

Why Your Opening Messages on Ashley Madison Fail
Summary: In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway dives into why certain types of opening messages on Ashley Madison don’t get replies. Teresa shares real messages she’s received, from sexualized ones to cliche openers, and explains why they fall flat. She also highlights the importance of following through with creative approaches, using a haiku promise that was never delivered as a prime example of a missed opportunity.
Key Highlights:
Sexualized messages and why they are an immediate fail.
Example: "What are your fantasies? My fantasy is tying you to the bed..."
Teresa’s response: "My fantasy is not being tied to the bed."
Why cliche or shallow messages won’t get replies.
Example: "I got lots of money to take care of you."
Teresa’s response: "Nope."
When creative messages work but fail due to lack of follow-through.
Example: "Something simple…a haiku?"
Teresa’s response: "And there, you had me all excited. No haiku, no sex."
Key Takeaways:
Be thoughtful and avoid sexualizing the first interaction.
Don’t rely on shallow claims like wealth or looks to impress.
Follow through on unique or creative approaches; otherwise, it’s a missed opportunity.
Quotable Moment: "You're writing checks with your mouth that your ass can't cash."
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EP 2416 - Skin Hunger: Deprivation of Human Touch

In this episode of The Teresa Pod, Teresa Conway discusses the concept of "skin hunger"—the impact of going without human touch. She shares her experiences with touch deprivation, from her childhood to later life, and explains the lasting effects of a single hug in high school. Teresa also dives into the science behind human touch, focusing on how oxytocin—the "love drug"—plays a vital role in emotional well-being. Touch deprivation can lead to anxiety, depression, and other health issues, making regular physical contact essential.
Episode Highlights:
Definition of skin hunger and how it affects various groups (e.g., elderly, shut-ins, people in prison)
Teresa’s personal story of growing up without much physical affection
The significance of a single hug and how it stayed with her for years
Health impacts of touch deprivation: anxiety, depression, sleep problems, weight gain, and more
How oxytocin is released through physical contact, helping us feel connected and cared for
The importance of everyday touch, like hand-holding and back-scratching
Key Takeaways:
Regular physical contact is essential for emotional and physical health.
A lack of touch over time can lead to a range of mental and physical health problems.
Touch goes beyond sensuality—it fosters connection, reduces stress, and improves well-being.
Quotable Moment: "That hug, though short, transferred a warmth and energy into me that I never knew I was missing."
Call to Action: If you know someone who may be going without regular physical contact, especially elderly or isolated individuals, consider how you can offer that connection. And don’t forget to subscribe to The Teresa Pod for more episodes like this!

EP 2415 - Masking Lifestyle Changes During an Affair

Episode Summary: In this episode of the Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway discusses the subtle but crucial art of masking lifestyle changes when you’re having an affair or planning to start one. Teresa shares personal insights on how she prepared for her affair and emphasizes the importance of having believable reasons for newfound happiness, confidence, and energy. She explores how to manage fashion, fitness, and other routine changes without raising suspicion, ensuring you don’t unintentionally reveal your secret.
Episode Highlights:
Teresa’s Personal Story:
Deciding to cheat before meeting someone and starting an exercise routine.
How messages from men on Ashley Madison boosted her confidence.
The importance of having a reason to explain your positive emotions.
Fashion and Style Adjustments:
Gradually upgrade your wardrobe to avoid drawing attention.
For men: Transition from "Homer Simpson" to "James Bond" subtly.
For women: Make subtle changes like new accessories or a slight hairstyle tweak.
Managing Fitness, Routine, and OPSEC (Operational Security):
Avoid the "midlife crisis" cliché by pacing your fitness changes.
Gradually introduce new habits like working out or social outings.
Be strategic with excuses for late work hours or increased gym sessions.
Key Takeaways:
Always have a believable reason for your newfound happiness and energy.
Make lifestyle changes gradually to avoid raising suspicion.
Maintain operational security by considering how your actions look to others.
Quotable: "She wants to meet James Bond, even if it’s only for three hours. She doesn’t want Homer Simpson."
Stay tuned for more episodes where Teresa shares her insights on navigating relationships and affairs discreetly. Don’t forget to subscribe to the Teresa Pod for expert advice on managing your double life!
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EP 2414 - Being Glued To Your Phone Is A Clue You’re Cheating

Episode Summary:
In this episode, Teresa Conway dives into the subtle signs that your phone habits might be giving you away if you’re cheating. She explores how changes in phone use can raise suspicion and offers strategies to desensitize your partner to your increased phone activity. Teresa also discusses the importance of gradually shifting your phone habits and how to make your partner lose interest by sharing annoying jokes and comments.
Key Discussion Points:
Changes in Phone Habits:
Everyone has a specific way they use their phone, and your spouse is keenly aware of yours. Any sudden change, like increased phone use or taking more calls in private, can be a red flag.
Masking Increased Activity:
If you're not typically glued to your phone, a sudden spike in usage will be noticeable. Teresa suggests gradually increasing your phone time by engaging in harmless activities, such as playing games like Words With Friends or joining online groups.
Desensitizing Your Partner:
Join groups or engage in activities your spouse dislikes. Teresa advises showing your partner stupid or annoying jokes and comments from these groups to increase their disinterest. For example, repeatedly sharing crude humor or silly memes can make them less curious about what you’re doing on your phone.
Creating a Cover Story:
If your partner asks what’s making you smile, you can simply attribute it to a joke or comment from a group they dislike. Over time, they'll become used to seeing you on your phone and will stop questioning your behavior.
Key Takeaways:
Gradually increase your phone usage to avoid raising suspicion.
Use annoying or uninteresting content to make your partner disinterested in your phone activity.
Over time, your partner will become desensitized to your increased phone use, giving you more freedom to communicate with your affair partner.
Quotable Moment:
"If they get suspicious, your goose is half-cooked. But if you desensitize them by sharing jokes they hate, soon they won’t care what you’re smiling at."
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EP 2413 - Five Reasons Why I Choose Adultery Over Divorce

Five Reasons I Choose Adultery Over Divorce
In this episode of the TeresaPod, host Teresa Conway tackles the controversial topic of why she chooses adultery over divorce. Responding to the frequent question, "Why don’t you just get a divorce?" Teresa outlines five key reasons for her decision, emphasizing the complexities and nuances that go beyond simple morality.
Episode Highlights:
Divorce is Expensive: The financial burden, including legal fees and asset division, makes divorce less appealing.
Loss of Social Connections: Divorce would disrupt social circles and friendships that Teresa values.
Divorce for Sex is Unreasonable: The stability of her marriage outweighs the sexual dissatisfaction.
Caregiving Obligations: Teresa's spouse’s medical needs create a moral obligation to stay.
Inevitability of Divorce if Caught: Divorce will happen if she’s caught, so there’s no rush to initiate it.
Key Takeaway: Teresa explores the difficult choices between maintaining a stable, albeit imperfect, marriage and seeking fulfillment through adultery, arguing that the decision isn’t as straightforward as it might seem.
Quotable Moment: "It's easier to write, 'Why don’t you get a divorce?' than it is to actually get a divorce."
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EP 2412 - My First Affair Sex After Nine Years of Abstinence

Episode Summary: In this episode, Teresa Conway candidly shares the transformative experience of her first affair after years of abstinence. She recounts the emotional journey that led to her decision, the intense anticipation, and the life-changing encounter that followed. Teresa reflects on how reconnecting with her body and embracing her desires reignited a sense of self-worth and joy that she hadn't felt in years.
Key Points:
The Catalyst: Waking up to the realization that without change, she'd never experience intimacy again.
Initial Hesitation: The fear and anxiety of meeting someone new after nearly a decade without sex.
The First Meeting: How a simple coffee date helped ease fears and set the stage for what was to come.
A Night to Remember: A passionate and fulfilling encounter that left Teresa feeling reborn and reconnected with herself.
Emotional Impact: The absence of guilt and the overwhelming joy that followed, marking the beginning of a new chapter in her life.
Quotable Moment: "It was like walking through a desert and then drinking a glass of clear, fresh water."
Tune in to hear Teresa's full story and explore the profound impact of reclaiming your sexual identity. Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review if this episode resonated with you!
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EP 2411 - Being on Ashley Madison Made Me Feel Sexy Again

Show Notes: Teresa Pod - Episode 11
Episode Summary: In this episode, Teresa Conway talks about her decision to find someone new and how it coincided with a summer of self-improvement. She shares how starting to exercise unexpectedly heightened her desire for intimacy and boosted her self-esteem. As Teresa explored Ashley Madison, she received a flood of attention that made her feel attractive and desired. Among the many suitors, one man stood out for his exceptional writing and deep connection, leading to a relationship that has continued to thrive for six years.
Episode Highlights:
The decision to seek an affair aligned with starting an exercise routine.
Exercise unintentionally increased sexual desire, fitting perfectly with Teresa's search for a partner.
A surge in self-esteem from the attention received on Ashley Madison.
One man’s writing and connection set him apart, leading to a lasting relationship.
The significance of meaningful connections beyond just physical attraction.
Key Takeaway: A connection that engages you on multiple levels—intellectually, emotionally, and physically—can significantly boost your confidence and well-being.
Quotable: "He stood out among the crowd and still stands out after six years. That connection was exactly what I was looking for."
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