The How to Cheat Podcast

EP 2415 - Masking Lifestyle Changes During an Affair

Episode Summary: In this episode of the Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway discusses the subtle but crucial art of masking lifestyle changes when you’re having an affair or planning to start one. Teresa shares personal insights on how she prepared for her affair and emphasizes the importance of having believable reasons for newfound happiness, confidence, and energy. She explores how to manage fashion, fitness, and other routine changes without raising suspicion, ensuring you don’t unintentionally reveal your secret.
Episode Highlights:
Teresa’s Personal Story:
Deciding to cheat before meeting someone and starting an exercise routine.
How messages from men on Ashley Madison boosted her confidence.
The importance of having a reason to explain your positive emotions.
Fashion and Style Adjustments:
Gradually upgrade your wardrobe to avoid drawing attention.
For men: Transition from "Homer Simpson" to "James Bond" subtly.
For women: Make subtle changes like new accessories or a slight hairstyle tweak.
Managing Fitness, Routine, and OPSEC (Operational Security):
Avoid the "midlife crisis" cliché by pacing your fitness changes.
Gradually introduce new habits like working out or social outings.
Be strategic with excuses for late work hours or increased gym sessions.
Key Takeaways:
Always have a believable reason for your newfound happiness and energy.
Make lifestyle changes gradually to avoid raising suspicion.
Maintain operational security by considering how your actions look to others.
Quotable: "She wants to meet James Bond, even if it’s only for three hours. She doesn’t want Homer Simpson."
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EP 2414 - Being Glued To Your Phone Is A Clue You’re Cheating

Episode Summary:
In this episode, Teresa Conway dives into the subtle signs that your phone habits might be giving you away if you’re cheating. She explores how changes in phone use can raise suspicion and offers strategies to desensitize your partner to your increased phone activity. Teresa also discusses the importance of gradually shifting your phone habits and how to make your partner lose interest by sharing annoying jokes and comments.
Key Discussion Points:
Changes in Phone Habits:
Everyone has a specific way they use their phone, and your spouse is keenly aware of yours. Any sudden change, like increased phone use or taking more calls in private, can be a red flag.
Masking Increased Activity:
If you're not typically glued to your phone, a sudden spike in usage will be noticeable. Teresa suggests gradually increasing your phone time by engaging in harmless activities, such as playing games like Words With Friends or joining online groups.
Desensitizing Your Partner:
Join groups or engage in activities your spouse dislikes. Teresa advises showing your partner stupid or annoying jokes and comments from these groups to increase their disinterest. For example, repeatedly sharing crude humor or silly memes can make them less curious about what you’re doing on your phone.
Creating a Cover Story:
If your partner asks what’s making you smile, you can simply attribute it to a joke or comment from a group they dislike. Over time, they'll become used to seeing you on your phone and will stop questioning your behavior.
Key Takeaways:
Gradually increase your phone usage to avoid raising suspicion.
Use annoying or uninteresting content to make your partner disinterested in your phone activity.
Over time, your partner will become desensitized to your increased phone use, giving you more freedom to communicate with your affair partner.
Quotable Moment:
"If they get suspicious, your goose is half-cooked. But if you desensitize them by sharing jokes they hate, soon they won’t care what you’re smiling at."
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EP 2413 - Five Reasons Why I Choose Adultery Over Divorce

Five Reasons I Choose Adultery Over Divorce
In this episode of the TeresaPod, host Teresa Conway tackles the controversial topic of why she chooses adultery over divorce. Responding to the frequent question, "Why don’t you just get a divorce?" Teresa outlines five key reasons for her decision, emphasizing the complexities and nuances that go beyond simple morality.
Episode Highlights:
Divorce is Expensive: The financial burden, including legal fees and asset division, makes divorce less appealing.
Loss of Social Connections: Divorce would disrupt social circles and friendships that Teresa values.
Divorce for Sex is Unreasonable: The stability of her marriage outweighs the sexual dissatisfaction.
Caregiving Obligations: Teresa's spouse’s medical needs create a moral obligation to stay.
Inevitability of Divorce if Caught: Divorce will happen if she’s caught, so there’s no rush to initiate it.
Key Takeaway: Teresa explores the difficult choices between maintaining a stable, albeit imperfect, marriage and seeking fulfillment through adultery, arguing that the decision isn’t as straightforward as it might seem.
Quotable Moment: "It's easier to write, 'Why don’t you get a divorce?' than it is to actually get a divorce."
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EP 2412 - My First Affair Sex After Nine Years of Abstinence

Episode Summary: In this episode, Teresa Conway candidly shares the transformative experience of her first affair after years of abstinence. She recounts the emotional journey that led to her decision, the intense anticipation, and the life-changing encounter that followed. Teresa reflects on how reconnecting with her body and embracing her desires reignited a sense of self-worth and joy that she hadn't felt in years.
Key Points:
The Catalyst: Waking up to the realization that without change, she'd never experience intimacy again.
Initial Hesitation: The fear and anxiety of meeting someone new after nearly a decade without sex.
The First Meeting: How a simple coffee date helped ease fears and set the stage for what was to come.
A Night to Remember: A passionate and fulfilling encounter that left Teresa feeling reborn and reconnected with herself.
Emotional Impact: The absence of guilt and the overwhelming joy that followed, marking the beginning of a new chapter in her life.
Quotable Moment: "It was like walking through a desert and then drinking a glass of clear, fresh water."
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EP 2411 - Being on Ashley Madison Made Me Feel Sexy Again

Show Notes: Teresa Pod - Episode 11
Episode Summary: In this episode, Teresa Conway talks about her decision to find someone new and how it coincided with a summer of self-improvement. She shares how starting to exercise unexpectedly heightened her desire for intimacy and boosted her self-esteem. As Teresa explored Ashley Madison, she received a flood of attention that made her feel attractive and desired. Among the many suitors, one man stood out for his exceptional writing and deep connection, leading to a relationship that has continued to thrive for six years.
Episode Highlights:
The decision to seek an affair aligned with starting an exercise routine.
Exercise unintentionally increased sexual desire, fitting perfectly with Teresa's search for a partner.
A surge in self-esteem from the attention received on Ashley Madison.
One man’s writing and connection set him apart, leading to a lasting relationship.
The significance of meaningful connections beyond just physical attraction.
Key Takeaway: A connection that engages you on multiple levels—intellectually, emotionally, and physically—can significantly boost your confidence and well-being.
Quotable: "He stood out among the crowd and still stands out after six years. That connection was exactly what I was looking for."
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EP 2410 - When I Decided to Have an Affair

Teresa Conway opens up about the moment she decided she needed to cheat. She reflects on a seemingly ordinary encounter at a music festival that triggered a realization about the loneliness and lack of intimacy that had been slowly consuming her life for nearly a decade.
Episode Highlights:
The Scene: Teresa sets the stage by sharing how a work trip led her to a music festival in a new city, where an unexpected connection with a stranger made her laugh for the first time in years.
The Encounter: A simple, friendly conversation with a younger, married man at the festival brings buried emotions to the surface, leading Teresa to confront the growing isolation in her life.
The Breakdown: Back in her hotel room, Teresa experiences an emotional breakdown as she faces the reality of her loneliness and the absence of physical intimacy in her marriage.
The Decision: The encounter and subsequent emotional release become a catalyst for Teresa’s decision to seek out an affair, recognizing that she could no longer bear the thought of spending the next 30 years alone.
Key Takeaways:
Sometimes, it’s the small, unexpected moments that reveal the deepest truths about our lives.
Loneliness can creep in gradually, masked by daily responsibilities, until it becomes too much to ignore.
The need for human connection and physical intimacy is powerful and can drive us to make difficult, life-altering decisions.
Quotable Moment: "The dam broke open when I realized that there could be more. The loneliness in that hotel room was just crushing, and I knew from that point on that I needed to find or make my own connection if I was going to have one again."
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EP 2409 - My Cheater's Guilt

Show Notes for Episode 2409: "My Cheater's Guilt"
Episode Summary: In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway talks about the unexpected and intense emotions that can accompany infidelity, mainly focusing on guilt. She shares a personal story about a time when guilt caught her off guard, leading to a deep emotional low. Teresa discusses the challenges of managing her feelings while also trying to reassure her lover and how she ultimately navigated these difficult emotions. This episode offers a candid look at the complexities of guilt and how it can impact both primary and extramarital relationships.
Episode Highlights:
Unpredictable Guilt: Teresa shares how guilt can sneak up on you unexpectedly, even when you feel everything is under control.
Personal Story: A week of freedom with her lover leads to a surprising emotional crash when her spouse returns, triggering overwhelming guilt.
Managing Dual Emotions: The challenge of balancing her own emotional needs with the responsibility of reassuring her lover during this difficult time.
The Temporary Nature of Guilt: Understanding that these intense feelings are transient and how recognizing this helped her get through the low point.
Communication: The importance of communicating with your partner about these emotions and not letting guilt signal the end of a relationship.
Quotable Moment: "I didn’t want to talk to my lover or even interact; I just wanted to be left alone with my thoughts, which was incredibly difficult while trying to maintain the facade of a happy family."
Key Takeaways:
Guilt in infidelity can be sudden and intense, often triggered by unexpected events.
These emotional lows are usually temporary, and understanding this can help you ride them out.
Open communication with your affair partner is crucial in navigating these emotional challenges.
Call to Action: If you’ve ever struggled with unexpected guilt in your relationship, know that you’re not alone. Tune in to hear Teresa’s personal experience and insights on how to manage these difficult emotions. Don’t forget to subscribe to The Teresa Pod for more episodes where we explore the complexities of relationships.
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EP 2408 - The Art of the Cover Story for Cheaters

In this episode of the Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway talks about the critical importance of having a foolproof cover story when you're having an affair.
Episode Highlights:
Why a Cover Story is Essential: Avoid suspicion and prevent small inconsistencies from becoming major red flags.
Personal Experience: Teresa shares a close call where her attention to detail saved her from exposing her secret.
Crafting the Perfect Cover:
The 5 W's and H: Who, What, When, Where, Why, and How.
Keep It Simple: Stick close to the truth to make your story believable and easy to remember.
Avoid Over-Explaining: Only provide details when asked; giving too much information can be a giveaway.
Key Takeaway: Always verify your details and prepare for potential follow-up questions to maintain control over your narrative.
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EP 2407 - When to Message Back Without Appearing Needy

When to Message Back After Silence - The Teresa Pod
In this episode of The Teresa Pod, host Teresa Conway tackles a frequent dating challenge: deciding when to send a follow-up message after getting no response. Teresa shares valuable strategies for handling the silence with confidence, ensuring you maintain interest without appearing needy.
Episode Highlights:
How to time your follow-up message after a conversation stalls.
Balancing interest with self-respect in your messaging.
Strategies to keep communication light and pressure-free.
Understanding the importance of acknowledging busy schedules.
Key Takeaways:
Wait a few days before reaching out again, considering her potential obligations.
Mention that you’ve been busy too, keeping the tone natural and balanced.
Avoid passive-aggressive comments and maintain a noncommittal vibe.
If she's interested, she’ll return; don’t risk pushing her away by over-messaging.
Quotable: "Relax, because if she's interested, she will come back. If she's not, there's nothing you can do about it."
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EP 2406 - Deciding if Cheating is for You

In this episode of The TeresaPod, host Teresa Conway dives into the complex emotions and ethical challenges surrounding infidelity. Teresa explores whether cheating is ever the right choice, particularly when the act feels wrong or leads to inner conflict. Through the lens of a client’s story, Teresa discusses the struggle between emotional needs and moral boundaries and the importance of listening to your gut feelings.
Episode Highlights:
The emotional isolation in a dead marriage and the desire for connection
Disappointment in extramarital encounters and unmet expectations
The ethical dilemma of being "the other woman" and fear of bad karma
The emotional toll of secrecy and guilt in infidelity
Why it's okay to decide that cheating isn't right for you
Key Takeaways:
Cheating is a deeply personal decision that isn't right for everyone.
It's crucial to listen to your emotions and set boundaries that align with your values.
If the idea of infidelity causes more harm than good, it might be better to walk away.
Quotable: "Seriously, there is nothing compelling you to keep going when it’s not in your heart. It’s a personal choice, and it’s important to be honest with yourself."
Call to Action: If you’re grappling with similar feelings, tune in to hear Teresa's insights and consider whether your emotional health aligns with your choices. Don’t forget to subscribe to The TeresaPod for more candid discussions on relationships and personal growth!
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